Tarot Thursday Three – Round 12!

Oops I’m late as hell to Tarot Thursday Three by the beautiful Julia of Spiral Sea Tarot. But hey, I blame the flu! Haven’t been able to get out of bed for four days… Ugh.

Scenario: You’re reading for another, but your mind goes blank. None of the cards seem to ”match” the inquiry and you’re having a hard time interpreting what you’re seeing – tips or strategies to overcome the situation?

Hmm. I always tell my clients before a video reading, or a face-to-face reading, ”If I go quiet for a while it’s just because I’m gathering my thoughts and tuning in with the images, so don’t worry about it.” just so they know it’s nothing weird or dangerous if I turn quiet all of a sudden. 😉

A piece of advice I got a long time ago was to start describing what is going on in the cards, and that can be very helpful and often make things fall into place again. Also making a connection back to the question can help, say it was about the client’s career, then keep it in mind and start thinking about what element is the most present. Is it water? Not too good with career. Is it pentacles? Could be very good, unless it’s like 5 of Pentacles lol…

If you were going to get a Tarot inspired tattoo, what would it be? Bonus points if you know where you’d get it!

Oh fun! I like tattoos, but I don’t LOVE them. I know that’s insane because everyone says that if you get one then you’re addicted for life and will get 50 lol. I have two, done six years apart. But I’m honestly not planning more of them, my latest one was done almost 10 years ago. I guess I don’t see the point? I’m very neutral to the two I have.

But okay, if I were to get one I think I might get part of The Moon card from one of my favorite decks. It’s a card that means a lot to me. Perhaps from the Sun and Moon Tarot? Love that card! Where? Probably on my left shoulder blade. It would look nice. I already have one, a small moth, on my right shoulder blade.

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What are your thoughts on PIPs or scene-less suit cards? Love them, hate them – I want to know what and why!

It depends what kind of reading I’m doing! If it’s short, practical, and I just want a clear honest answer then yes, Tarot de Marseille and its pips can be excellent! I do love the historical aspect of the Tarot de Marseille for sure, and I’ve learnt to appreciate the artwork.

But when it comes to deeper soul work and a more meditative tarot practice I always go for the modern decks with scenic minors… I just get so much more out of them, and they also give me more poetic and soulful readings. It’s probably a matter of practicing and what decks you use the most though. I mean, Camelia Elias writes up beautiful readings on her blog and she almost always uses the Tarot de Marseille or other pip decks.

But for me, it is what it is and I’m okay with it. Something I’m really starting to like are kind of semi-scenic minors?! I don’t know if that makes sense lol but if you look at the Starchild Tarot (photo below…) she has some minors that aren’t exactly pips but they’re not fully scenic either. And I love those because they leave more room for the intuition, while still giving a beautiful visual. Tarot of the Hidden Realm also comes to mind here, beautiful minors, but some are more sparse than the RWS, less action-based at least.

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About boycotting certain products.

These days people often market themselves in a much more personal way than I feel people did many years ago. Basically everyone has their own corner on the internet, whether this is a website, blog, Instagram page, tumblr or whatever… It’s very easy to find out a lot about a person today just by doing a quick google search.

I’ve sometimes expressed that I personally choose to boycott Doreen Virtue, among other deck creators. I don’t like many of the things she has said publically, and I don’t vibe with her greedy ways. When I’ve made this clear a lot people have done the whole ”Oh but do you really research the creator of ALL of your decks?!” and roll their eyes. As if the only person I’m “out to get” is Doreen Virtue. But you know what? Yes, I do! I do research the people behind the decks I am interested in.

Now why is that so weird? So hard to believe? No, please tell me, I’m wondering.

A quick google search can reveal a lot about an artist or writer. Of course gossip and rumors are dangerous, but say a deck creator has made a blog post about loving and supporting Donald Trump. Would that make me boycott that deck? You know, probably yes

I also unsubscribed from at least two different mail lists in the past two years because I did not like the opinions expressed by the tarot people running those lists. One was very verbally aggressive saying that people who don’t express political opinions on their spiritual sites are cowards and need to be more active politically (this is ridiculous because she has no idea what we do out there in THE REAL WORLD. I’d rather go demonstrate than post a photo on Instagram stating I’m not a racist). The other one compared the holocaust to eating meat, and I’m just not even bothering with explaining why that is extremely inappropriate and offensive.

I digress… So yes, I actually care about who is behind a product that I am somehow including in my life.

It sucks sometimes, because idiots can also create nice looking decks or write good books, but I try to support people I personally find have a good heart and wise opinions, and boycott the people I see as not vibing with me.

In a world with a lot of pushy opinions and subliminal messages I try to keep good vibes around me and not let in energy I find destructive. I like to keep both my home and soul clean and shiny.

So can we just please stop assuming that everyone consumes decks at the speed of light? Can we just understand that there is a way of shopping for decks in a more mindful and aware way? I don’t care what decks someone else buys, if they choose to research the creators or not, but I have made my choice and I’m happily sticking to it.

What is up for discussion and debate, and what is not?

I’ve recently joined some more forums and discussion groups connected to cartomancy. When I started working with tarot that was one of the first things I did on my tarot journey – find people sharing their tarot journey online. I was always so grateful seeing the very different opinions, methods and views expressed. Symbolism, reversals, shuffling methods, spreads, keywords, meanings… There are so many things we can discuss connected to tarot!

But today I’m starting to wonder if some people just want their ego stroked or if they actually want to discuss something?

If I notice that someone has strong opinions about something I simply say, “Okay then” and move on with my life. I’m not interested in being a keyboard warrior struggling to make others agree with my arguments and views. We are all individuals. We are all so different. Why would I waste hours of my precious time on someone who obviously will never agree with me?

But what I do love is good, open, discussion. Me sharing my views, someone else sharing their views, us finding it interesting how we see things so differently and why that is. Sometimes the light bulb does light up – and I think to myself, “Hmm wow, now that she/he has explained it, I really do see why I would try that out.” And I believe someone else has probably looked at my posts similarly. That’s nice, but not really the goal so to speak.

But what I’ve noticed from joining these groups and discussions recently is the butt-hurt kind of behavior that comes from taking everything personally. Which seems very common these days – and is in my opinion very unhealthy. Simple example (not real, just a made up example):

Thread starter: “Hi! How do you guys like the Happy Tarot? I recently bought it and it’s so amazing, unique and powerful! I am so in love with this deck.”

Reply: “Oh I had it for a while but I didn’t really feel I could take it seriously with all the people smiling in it. Sold it.”

Thread starter again: “Umm okay, the thing is that the reason they’re smiling is because bla bla bla and you would understand that if you had read through the guidebook which is also amazing. You’re taking this too seriously and maybe you should reply in a different post if you don’t like my favorite deck that I wrote about!”

That’s the kind of butt-hurt behavior that makes me wonder why the person went online in the first place, and it’s what is making me want to leave almost every group out there. What does it matter that other people are not loving the same things as you are? Why does it personally offend you? When it in no way affects you.

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I would love to hand out a quick free guide to the internet to all these overly sensitive people. It would say:

Hi!
Do you want to show off your methods, decks, and have a monologue about your reading ethics? Okay then! Please start a blog, or a YouTube channel, or an Instagram account where you talk or write about those things. And don’t forget to turn off all kinds of commenting options! This will give you the space to share your views without anyone being able to discuss it with you.

Do you want to discuss your methods, decks, and readings ethics? Then create the above accounts, but make sure to leave the commenting options on! You can also join forums and groups where every post has a “reply” option. This way you express your views, but also have other people sharing their views. Remember that everyone won’t agree with you and when they don’t you can choose to simply move on with your life.

So pick one of the above options and be happy out there in cyber space, kids!

Just a little bit of random stuff about ME…

I haven’t written anything personal about myself in a while here or on Instagram, and thought you might want to know some random stuff about me if you’ve recently started following me.

  • Okay basics first: I live in the south of Sweden, I turn 30 on July 3rd this year, and I’ve studied tarot since 2004.
  • I live with my cat in a studio apartment on a hill on the 6th floor. I can see the bridge between Denmark and Sweden on a sunny day! Even though my place is tiny I absolutely LOVE it, which makes it hard for me and my boyfriend to find a new place to share…
  • I’ve had big problems deciding what I want to work with. So I’m both a trained social worker and medical secretary. And oh tarot reader too I guess lol.
  • I don’t have a driver’s license, which often surprises people. The reason is that it’s very expensive , and also – I’ve always lived in the center of the city so I haven’t felt like I need a car.
  • I’m a total crazy cat lady, but I don’t like children. I am yet to decide if I ever want to try to get pregnant or not.
  • I LOVE a high quality steak, medium-rare or rare, with a glass of red wine. I’m a bit offended by people who order a steak ”well done” to be honest. Ugh just get chicken instead if you’re just gonna ruin it…
  • I’m a sucker for blonde hair and will probably keep bleaching my hair until the day I die. Prettiest women ever IMO: Marilyn Monroe and Brigit Bardot.
  • I’m a natural born healer and empath. Those who have seen my natal chart will know this to be true for sure.
  • While we’re on the subject… My natal chart contains A LOT of water and Moon energy. A well-respected person in the tarot/astrology community has once written ”you’re a very complex person”. I take it as a compliment! 😉
  • I don’t really like to travel. I know this might seem odd, but I find it very stressful and I easily get anxious when I’m abroad. Being introverted, a Cancerian, and a hermit could have something to do with it lol my home is really my sanctuary and beloved space.

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Tarot Thursday Three – Eleventh Round!

Yay time for another round of Tarot Thursday Three by Julia!

Classic deserted island scenario: You’re stranded for a year on an island, but can bring along one companion. Who from the court family keeps you company?

I’d say the King of Pentacles. He’s a handy man, stays calm, is warm and kind. So that makes sense, because I’m not handy or practical at all lol. Not very feminist of me to pick him I guess, but oh well, it is what it is.

What are off-limit topics for you; inquiries that make you say ”I won’t go there”? Or is anything fair game?

Hmm. Officially I can’t say I have any off-limit inquiries, but it’s really a matter of deciding from case to case for me. So far I’ve never said “No, I’m not doing that!”.

I see some topics as pointless to read on, say digging deep into “What does X think about me? How does X feel about me? Does X see a future between us?” and similar. I think if something is a secret to someone, and they really don’t want anyone to know about it, then tarot won’t show an accurate answer because that person has (subconsciously perhaps) blocked their energy. We don’t need to be “witches” to be able to protect our energy, that’s my belief… I tell my querents this, but still they want to ask the cards and pay for something I clearly say might be blocked from them… Go figure! lol

But I don’t have a long list of off-limit questions, like a lot of modern readers do, because after all I am a card reader, not a judge or parent or boss. I might sometimes feel that a question is a bit silly/inappropriate/whatever, but it’s not my choice what to ask the cards. I’m just the interpreter, and I don’t want my clients to feel like I judge them, I want them to feel like I’ve held space for them.

Obviously I wouldn’t feel comfortable at all if someone came and asked “Can I get away with murdering my mother-in-law? How?” hehe… Luckily I’ve never received brutal questions like that though.

How do you get ”in the mood” or mind-frame to read?

After many years of reading tarot I find I get in the tarot mood easier than before. Just start to shuffle usually helps and gets me in the zone so to speak. If I’m in for doing really deep work I might start with 10 minutes of meditation, placing crystals, incense, and so on, but I for sure CAN get in the zone easier than that. I used to be very fixated on how it felt to be in the exact right mood, that it had to be quiet around me, I had to repeat the question out loud etc, but I’ve found it’s really not necessary these days. Setting intention is often enough for me.

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Tarot Thursday Three – Tenth Round!

Wow is it already the 10th round of Tarot Thursday Three?! Can’t believe it, I feel like we just entered February?

Anyway, another round of awesome questions by Julia!

Does Spellwork have a place in your practice and if so, how?

No, and I don’t see myself as a witch, pagan, wiccan, or similar. I’ve dabbled in spellwork, especially as a teenager, but these days… I think I’m not that drawn to affecting reality in that way? I think I’m much more of a zen person, drawn towards going with the flow, appreciating what I have and not always longing for MORE. No disrespect towards anyone who does spellwork a lot or so, but for me in my heart it doesn’t feel necessary and not always right.

What is the element you most identify with and/or enjoy working with and why?

Ooh now elements I like! Hehe. I would say I work with all the elements, and try to connect with them, but it’s extra important for me to try connecting with earth and fire. Earth because I live a lot ”in my head” and tend to be an emotional dreamer. Fire because I can be lazy and tell myself compulsively that I have no creativity in me lol so I need that fiery energy to get me going sometimes.

For me the elements are very symbolic. I feel at home with water because I am super emotional, Cancerian… But in real life I am a lousy swimmer and uncomfortable in water! I get very nervous when there’s a storm going on, and I hate flying, so air nope… Fire makes me nervous and I hate when it’s warm. Earth… Walking around barefoot… Okay, kind of like that.

Besides the cards, what are you favourite tools for divination and/or ritual?

Hmm. For divination I only use cards: oracle and tarot. And my dreams I guess, but dreams aren’t a tool really, right?

My spiritual tools include crystals, incense, candles, essential oils, paper and pen, books, and music.

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Tarot Thursday Three – Ninth Round!

Time for another round of Tarot Thursday Three by Julia from Spiral Sea Tarot!

What was it that initially sparked your interest with tarot? 
It’s hard to say exactly… Even as a child I was always a seeker. When girls turned 14 and started to be interested in thongs, booze and boys, I really started to research religion, philosophy and witchcraft more deeply. Not trying to sound like a douchebag here lol that’s just the way it was! So I knew about different forms of divination, but if I remember correctly I felt that tarot seemed a bit too complicated for me to get into so I never got a deck or so back then.

A couple of years later, when I was 17, I followed a blog written by a Polish-American woman around my age. She had the RWS deck and showed some readings on her blog, and that’s when I really felt “I want to do that too!” and went out to get my own deck.

Is it what you expected it to be and if not, in what ways were your expectations defied?
Haha! I don’t know… I mean, I was 17 when I got my first deck! Of course my view of tarot has changed as my brain has umm evolved lol. At that time I wanted two things mainly: To predict the future because that would be comfortable and fun. And also to have a really cool psychic skill that would make everyone else think I was super mysterious and cool (not so mature anymore, eh?). Sigh… Thankfully I quite quickly realized that the tarot had the potential to be a much more useful tool. I found Aeclectic Tarot Forum quite early on in my tarot journey, and the wise people there made me understand that tarot could be a huge help when it comes to self-development, spirituality, psychology and getting to know oneself better etc…

How do you primarily use tarot? I.e. for divination, self-reflection, analysis, shadow work, ritual (or something else)?
I’m going to steal a little bit of Julia’s answer here because it’s so clear and good: ”I use it for divination, but I really stress probability with myself and others. For example, ’this may happen based on energy and current trajectory, but the future is not carved in stone’”. So yeah, I use tarot for divination for both myself and others, but I would say for myself it’s more often about understanding myself, others, the world, my life, in a better way. In recent years I’ve also let tarot become a much bigger part of my spiritual life than it used to be. I feel tarot can really connect me to other energies and Source, and that’s a wonderful use for it. So almost all of the suggestions apply to me… I rarely use tarot for ritual, but I’m not huge on ritual overall… Shadow work – definitely! Amazing tool for that sort of psychological work.

 

Tarot Thursday Three – Eight Round!

Time for more tarot blog prompts by the wonderful Julia of Spiral Sea Tarot. Yay I love these!

If you could have your likeness immortalized on any one of the 78 cards, which would it be and why?

Ooh fun question! And hard haha… Well, High Priestess feels kind of obvious, don’t all female tarot readers connect really well with that card?! I can kind of see myself as The Empress though. I’m very curvy and have a very feminine look, though on the inside I’m not that much like her. You know what, I can see myself as a fierce Justice so I’ll just go with that! Would love to see myself with that sword and all around power look!

When reading for yourself, are you able to remain unbiased and if so, what tips can you share for others?

Oh yes! I mean, there will always be subjects that are harder to remain unbiased about. When I’m very emotionally involved it can be difficult, but on spiritual matters, everyday subjects, and similar I am very good at reading for myself.

I find it a big problem when someone says they cannot read the cards for themselves, ever. A person like that probably NEEDS to read the cards for themselves more, because he/she probably has a very weak sense of identity and would benefit from getting to know oneself better. If we plan to be healing tarot readers (opposed to just telling fortunes) we need to work with self-discovery. So that’s my tip for people who can’t read at all for themselves…

Struggling with certain subjects I think is natural, and it’s healthy and supportive of the community to now and then go to someone else for a reading. I sure do! For me I remember having a hard time reading about love related subjects when I was single a while back. I was very interested in a guy I knew and tried to read the cards on what was going on between us, and it was hard! I really wanted him to be interested so I would either see the cards as too positive because of my own hopes, or too negative because of my own fears! So I was simply way too emotionally involved at the time.

What is your least favorite deck in your collection and why?

Hmm. I have cleaned up my collection really well during the last couple of months, so I wouldn’t say I dislike any of my decks. But okay, I have three decks up for trade/sale and they are the Dreams of Gaia, Fanuna’s Tarot, and Cat’s Eye Tarot. Let me tell you why I want to re-home them:

Dreams of Gaia: We simply don’t click. I admit, I fell for the hype, everyone was so nuts about this deck so I wanted to try it too, but it taught me a lesson to not fall for hype… I really enjoyed reading the book (yup, read it all!) but the images themselves remain quiet and numb for me. I think the artwork is “too perfect” for my personal taste. The people and environment are so flawless, sterile, clean, and I like artwork to be a bit more rough around the edges. I haven’t used it many times at all, but every time I want to give it a new chance I just feel like “Ugh nooo…” and pick another deck instead.

Fanuna’s Tarot: I got the Yoga Tarot but didn’t like it at all as much as I thought I would. So I traded it for this one, also OOP, on a whim. It’s well done, cute and original. But it just doesn’t do much for me. I think some of the artwork is a bit too cartoon’ish for me to appreciate.

Cat’s Eye Tarot: I love the LWB that comes with this! Small, but awesome. This is a really lovely deck, but two things make me want to re-home it. 1. No calicos and tortoise cats in it! They’re my favorite and the only reason why I prefer the Mystical Cats Tarot to this one, it has quite a few. 2. I really don’t “need” more than one tarot deck hehe. I’ve recently somehow acquired a lot of animal decks in general and I’m trying to keep my collection varied and balanced.

Tarot Thursday Three – Seventh round!

So, another round of fun tarot blog prompts, and this one deals with one of my favorite decks… Maybe even THE favorite deck? Don’t forget to visit Julia who takes the time to put it together for us every Thursday. And I’m a bit late because it’s Sunday hehe but hey, better late than never…

1. How do you feel about the Rider-Waite-Smith (RWS)?

I love it! I always have. For a very long time I could only get a hold of RWS decks with the computerized fonts, and it pissed me off! I always really liked how Pamela’s handwriting looked and really wanted one of those decks myself. While looking for it I enjoyed decks that closely followed the RWS. When someone gifted me the RWS with handwritten titles I was head over heels for it! To me the RWS just screams out “TAROT”. It’s simply THE tarot deck.

People ask me why I don’t have back-ups, and I have a few reasons… 1. I’m not made of money, hello! 2. I’m super careful with my decks and I’m overall a quite Virgo’ish person who doesn’t lose things or damage things easily. 3. If they would all fall into the ocean or burn or whatever – I’d simply go out and buy myself a good ol’ RWS and I’d be good for a while!

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2. What was your beginning deck?

The Goddess Tarot by Kris Waldherr. It quite closely follows the RWS I’d say. I found it to be a really nice first deck. About a year later I started to work with the Robin Wood and the Universal Waite.

3. Do all beginners need to start with the RWS (or clone), in your opinion? Why/why not?

No. People who love historical art and tradition might prefer a Tarot de Marseille. People who love the look of the Thoth and adding a bunch of different “esoteric” meanings, astrological associations, and Tree of Life philosophy might prefer the Thoth. And if someone falls DEEPLY in love with a very unique deck (Mary-El, Wild Unknown, Ceccoli Tarot etc) and does not at all like the look of the RWS should really go with their strong feelings instead.

I think anyone who truly doesn’t appreciate the RWS look at all should not force themselves to use it. But if someone does not mind the artwork, and is serious about learning tarot, yes then I do think it’s a very good idea to get a good ol’ RWS and work with it. Also someone who plans on working with a lot of different decks, because it makes life easier to have gotten to know the RWS beforehand. So that’s my view, but overall I truly believe no one else can tell anyone else what is the only “right” thing to do – it must be a personal decision.

Tarot Thursday Three – Sixth Round!

As usual Julia gives us really interesting questions for the Tarot Thursday Three.

Reversals or nah?

For a short while when I started reading tarot I did use reversals. But the thing that stopped me after a while was that I could never figure out a way to get reversed cards and still shuffle the deck in a natural way?

As the years have gone by I’ve never ever missed including reversals in my tarot practice. To me the tarot is a very visual tool, and seeing a piece of artwork upside down does not give me any new insights. It simply confuses my brain.

The tarot traditionally is very balanced between shadow and light, which means that if the cards are warning me about something bad to happen, I can trust that a “bad” card shows up (say, The Devil or Ten of Swords). I don’t need The Sun reversed to see shadow – there’s already enough of those cards in the deck anyway.

If you could go back in time and give your novice self one piece of wisdom to fast track your tarot learning, what would it be?

Hmm. I really feel I did the best I could, and it turned out pretty damn good haha! I started with LWB-meanings, but very quickly found a tarot forum online and understood from those wise people that an intuitive understanding of each card was much more beneficial.

I guess the only piece of advice I’d give would be to use the cards very often to incorporate them into my daily life and into my conscious mind. I had such deep respect for tarot back then that I didn’t want to “over do” it, and it’s just in the last couple of years I’ve understood how amazing tarot can be when you create that daily healing and guidance by using them.

What is your go-to spread?

I don’t really have one! I’m quite quick to create a spread based on the specific question I have. But I guess I will often just pull three cards and then read them as a story, especially with traditional decks this is always spot on for me.