What was your first time like giving an in-person reading? Where were you? How did you feel? Spill the deets!
Oh I actually don’t remember because it was hmm 12 years ago or so! It was probably a reading for my boyfriend at the time or my best friend? I do know I had been reading for myself for a couple of months, and I had decided to start reading more intuitively and not go with memorized keywords and such. Kind of proud of that, I know many people get stuck in that pattern… I must say honestly I was probably a better face-to-face-reader back then than I am now lol! I very rarely give in-person readings (simply because my friends and acquaintances are not interested in tarot!) so it makes me a bit nervous. When I do written readings I almost find myself in a trance state and just type away – it’s a flow I don’t always find with in-person readings.
Have you ever had a negative client response to one of your readings? How did they react and why? How did you respond back?
Nothing super negative, but I did get an e-mail implying that the reading was “not accurate”, because things had turned out differently than it had suggested. I already clearly explain in my “about me” section that there is no such thing as 100% accurate predictions, and I believe in free will and taking action instead of life passively happening to you… But I assume this client had not read that section (although I strongly and clearly recommend they do before purchasing a reading, sigh…). I responded explaining this, and recommended that he/she would read through the reading again, not getting stuck about the parts implying a specific outcome, but rather embrace the advice given about self-love, self-focus, growth etc (which was a much larger part of the reading anyway). I don’t think I got any negative response back so hopefully the client found something useful in the reading anyway.
I believe that expectations often get in the way of a positive reading experience. The client WANTS someone to tell them “Do this and all will be well” so they ignore the descriptions saying “I am not a psychic. This is not a predictive reading.” etc. They WANT to believe that tarot readers are like in the movies (or like shady fake mediums describe themselves); able to predict everything and let them in on all of life’s secrets. With an open mind and actively deciding that I am the right reader for them, they would really enjoy the reading so much more. With that said, I think I’ve had the above negative response maybe twice? So I’m happy the majority of my clients have been positive (or just quiet?) lol!
Have you ever been challenged by a skeptic regarding tarot? What was your experience like?
No, but I’m good at staying away from debates I find pointless. I don’t like to engage in discussions starting with “That cannot possibly work and it’s all a scam!” because it just sets the wrong tone from the beginning.
I’m very good at explaining my tarot philosophy and as soon as people hear I’m not any kind of fortune-teller or psychic medium they calm down. I think most skeptics I’ve met are very uninterested and simply don’t care about my tarot practice, so the conversation dies down quickly. I’m personally a sports skeptic btw! Hehe. I find sports extremely stupid and pointless, but do I point that out when I meet a person who is happy her favorite team won the Olympics or whatever? Nah, why would I? And I think most tarot skeptics are that way – they simply don’t care that I “waste time” on something that is “not real” or similar.
My ex was quite a skeptic, but VERY respectful and always supported me, encouraging me to start my Instagram page and so on. But every now and then he’d come to me for a reading, again respectfully, just saying it was for fun and such. After a while he’d start saying “Hey! This is exactly like that tarot reading last month!” lol so he kept officially being a skeptic but found every one of those “just for fun readings” to be very helpful and accurate!