I’ve recently joined some more forums and discussion groups connected to cartomancy. When I started working with tarot that was one of the first things I did on my tarot journey – find people sharing their tarot journey online. I was always so grateful seeing the very different opinions, methods and views expressed. Symbolism, reversals, shuffling methods, spreads, keywords, meanings… There are so many things we can discuss connected to tarot!
But today I’m starting to wonder if some people just want their ego stroked or if they actually want to discuss something?
If I notice that someone has strong opinions about something I simply say, “Okay then” and move on with my life. I’m not interested in being a keyboard warrior struggling to make others agree with my arguments and views. We are all individuals. We are all so different. Why would I waste hours of my precious time on someone who obviously will never agree with me?
But what I do love is good, open, discussion. Me sharing my views, someone else sharing their views, us finding it interesting how we see things so differently and why that is. Sometimes the light bulb does light up – and I think to myself, “Hmm wow, now that she/he has explained it, I really do see why I would try that out.” And I believe someone else has probably looked at my posts similarly. That’s nice, but not really the goal so to speak.
But what I’ve noticed from joining these groups and discussions recently is the butt-hurt kind of behavior that comes from taking everything personally. Which seems very common these days – and is in my opinion very unhealthy. Simple example (not real, just a made up example):
Thread starter: “Hi! How do you guys like the Happy Tarot? I recently bought it and it’s so amazing, unique and powerful! I am so in love with this deck.”
Reply: “Oh I had it for a while but I didn’t really feel I could take it seriously with all the people smiling in it. Sold it.”
Thread starter again: “Umm okay, the thing is that the reason they’re smiling is because bla bla bla and you would understand that if you had read through the guidebook which is also amazing. You’re taking this too seriously and maybe you should reply in a different post if you don’t like my favorite deck that I wrote about!”
That’s the kind of butt-hurt behavior that makes me wonder why the person went online in the first place, and it’s what is making me want to leave almost every group out there. What does it matter that other people are not loving the same things as you are? Why does it personally offend you? When it in no way affects you.
I would love to hand out a quick free guide to the internet to all these overly sensitive people. It would say:
Do you want to show off your methods, decks, and have a monologue about your reading ethics? Okay then! Please start a blog, or a YouTube channel, or an Instagram account where you talk or write about those things. And don’t forget to turn off all kinds of commenting options! This will give you the space to share your views without anyone being able to discuss it with you.
Do you want to discuss your methods, decks, and readings ethics? Then create the above accounts, but make sure to leave the commenting options on! You can also join forums and groups where every post has a “reply” option. This way you express your views, but also have other people sharing their views. Remember that everyone won’t agree with you and when they don’t you can choose to simply move on with your life.
So pick one of the above options and be happy out there in cyber space, kids!